Wow, two posts in one day. I must have a lot on my mind.

I finally got to go out with Bubbly last Friday. It seemed perfect...the traffic coperated with me and I got to her place right on time - although she wasn't ready and I had to wait an additional ten minutes. But when she came out...wow. Worth the wait.

We went to dinner at Paparazzi in Shangri-la Edsa Plaza. I always enjoyed eating there when I was younger and I thought she'd like it. And she did. She even said that the risotto was the best she ever had.

Afterwards, we went to Metrowalk to catch the Itchyworms play. After a good set, she got a text message from her best friend asking if they could meet up in Makati. She asks if I could make hatid and of course I obliged. I was kinda tired din at the time but she asked me if I wanted to hang with her first. So I did. Then, after an hour and a half, I yawned. She saw this and asked me if I wanted to go home. She told me that she would be okay and that I shouldn't worry about her. Of course, I didn't want to leave her alone in Makati at 2 in the morning so I volunteered to stay. She insisted and threatened that if I didn't go home, "Away tayo", in her own words.

I finished my cigarette, said my goodbyes then walked to the car as she went to the ATM. I told the driver to go ahead without me and went after Bubbly. Upon seeing me, she got irate. She stormed off in a huff and said something about being able to take care of herself.

I decided that it would be better for me to back off rather than argue my point so I made sure she was settled in at Starbucks and hailed a cab. As soon as I got home, I gave her a call. She answered coldly and I apologized. I asked her if she was still angry. Se said that "It will pass." And then said good night. I waited by my phone till 430 in the morning when she finally texted that she got home safe.

And that's the last I've hard from her since.

There's a reason I've been single all these years and this is it....

So why do I miss her so much? And why am I so affected that she's mad? And why is she so mad in the first place? We're just dating right? Right?

Argh. Women.

some unsolicited two cents'? :)

sorry -- kill me after if you want. but you're my friend, so you gotta hear this.

women now no longer need a knight in shining armor.

they need a partner who sees them as an equal.

so when she says "go home, i can take care of myself" -- the undertones are -- i want to spend some alone time with my best friend, so go away.

and when she says that - she means it.

by doing what you did, you:

1. didn't listen to her and didn't take her seriously when she said she can take care of herself.

2. didn't give her the SPACE that she wanted from you. (space isn't a bad thing. it's good. it keeps relationships healthy and exciting)

3. even if you're just in the dating stage, you're giving her a glimpse of how it would be IF you guys got together and progressed to something more. you're giving her the impression of being possessive and clingy.

can't speak for bubbly... but i do know that no girl wants to be possessed and clung to anymore, doubt too that with her personality, she'd want to know that her guy's life revolves around hers alone. makes being with her guy more interesting when you have your life, and she has hers. maybe this is just the reassurance she needs.

hope this helps.

she was seeing some other guy.
accept that all girls do this.
always have 4-5 other "possibles" waiting in the wings, just like them.
this will keep you entertained, not bothered about the facts mentioned above.
mentally and emotionally, this will make you far more attractive to girl prospect#1.

also, don't be sleazy.

Post a Comment